CULTURE/IDENTITY IN CYBERSPACE
IDENTITY WITHIN ONLINE DATING SETTINGS
Text Version of CCT260 Essay
By
Iman Mohammed
Submitted:
Thursday November 16, 2007
IDENTITY WITHIN ONLINE DATING SETTINGS
In
text-based online communications we are nothing until we type at the keyboard
and others do not know us unless we tell them something. In the process of
narrating to others who we are and what we do, the digital self begins to take
shape (Zhao 397)
Identity is a concept
that forms two mental images. One is identity as a structured and bounded
package that represents an individual. Second is identity as a fluid, tangible
construction of self by an individual. In relations to identity on the web the
second mental image prevails. The web is a limitless space where people can and
have experimented with identities different than their real world identities
(Simpson 120). So, how can one trust any interaction with individuals online?
How about personal interactions and the search for a life partner? Can a person
be trusted to display a completely truthful representation of who he/she is?
Otherwise, are there ways to gain impressions of people online similar to the
real world? This essay examines the structure of the website Arablounge (www.arablounge.com),
an online dating network that promises to Òconnect Arabs worldwideÓ. The
examination of the structure of the website will be used to determine the
process of identity formation in dating sites and how the process relates and
differs from offline dating. In comparison to offline dating, online dating
goes through similar steps of building trust, managing impression and relying
on cues.
To begin with, real
world dating starts with meeting someone. The union occurs through friends or
at a place a person frequents. Therefore it begins at a trusted known
environment like a local bar a person regularly visits or workplace. This trust
enables a person to be more open and communicative of personal information.
Similarly, the main page of the website Arablounge is set to create a feeling
of exclusivity and trust to the visitor. The member login at the top right hand
corner of the page communicates to the visitor that membership is the only way
to receive information on other members and the only way to give information on
onesÕ self. Therefore creating a form of security on membersÕ personal
information. Also, two elements found on the main page of the website create
two different forms of trust between the visitor and the website. These two elements
are found at the bottom panel of the website one says ÒIt really worksÓ and a
picture of a bride and groom and the other says Ò5 star safety programÓ with a
little blurb on the sites commitment on providing a Òsafe and friendly
environmentÓ. These two elements
included by the website developers are essential in telling the visitor that
this site is a serious and monitored website where personal information is kept
exclusive to members of the website. This promise increases the chance of a
visitor joining the website and possibly providing real information on their
identity. Therefore turning this website into a trusted environment for the
visitor like the regularly visited local bar.
Furthermore,
managing impressions is a type of filter individualsÕ utilize in various social
interactions. The level of filtering of impressions differs based on the
situation. In dating interactions the level of filtering a person sets up
usually is based on their prediction of the other personÕs interests.
ÒSelf-presentation strategies are especially important during relationship
initiation, as others will use this information to decide whether to pursue a
relationshipÓ(Ellison 417). Therefore, on a first date the level of impression
sifting will be the highest in the hopes of getting a second date. In other
words, managing impressions functions as a form of identity tweaking. Likewise,
on the website Arablounge a potential member goes through a series of
questioning. It starts of with three mandatory questioning sections called
Òpersonal infoÓ e.g. Screen name, email address etc, ÒAt first glanceÓ where a
person provides basic information about themselves, ÒAbout my MatchÓ where a
person provides a form of outline on ideal partner. Following these three
sections are two optional sections ÒMy PhotoÓ and ÒDetailed questionsÓ a
section where a person answers questions like ÒDescribe
the perfect evening or weekend?Ó and ÒWhen raising a family, how important is
it for you that your kids be raised to speak Arabic?Ó. The first three sections
demonstrate the rudiments of a first date when two people initially meet and
the exchange greetings through close-ended questions. Afterwards the last two
sections are where impression management takes place. Adding a photo to a
profile is like showing up to a date wearing a dress and heels vs. showing up
to a date wearing jeans and a sweater. The last section with the detailed
questions allows the highest level of impression management because they
provide open-ended and selective responses. Although the first three
sections are close-ended they still allow a person to make adjustments. ÒMany
people describe themselves the way they want [to be] . . . their ideal selves.
For example, individuals might identify themselves as active in various activities
(e.g., hiking, surfing)Ó (Ellison 426). These adjustments might seem as ÒminorÓ
white lies but all the little details in a profile patch up to create an image
to any interested members. Therefore, if a person sets up their own profile
with pieces of attuned details that do not match reality a false image forms on
an interested memberÕs mind, creating a false identity.
Finally, non-verbal cues are a form of unwitting
identity representation. Non-verbal cues vary based on social settings. In this
case, during a date if a person keeps looking up at the ceiling it can be
interpreted as boredom by the other person. Also, others can use non-verbal
cues to formulate aspects of a personÕs identity through observation of that
personÕs behavior (Lee 19). For example, during a date the male/female might
notice that their date is an anxious person if he/she keeps moving a leg up and
down. Similarly, online there is a reliance on cues. However, online they are
all verbal cues. ÒDuring initial interactions between online dating
participants stylistic aspects of messages, such as timing, length, and grammar
appear equally as important as the content of the messageÓ(Ellison 431).
Therefore, messages exchanged between online dating participants function as
dialogue. So, misspelled words in profiles or in messages can be interpreted as
lack of interest or education (Ellison 424). Also, adding picture to profile is
a cue for interest and concern for representation of identity. For this reason,
ArabloungeÕs profile ranking in the profile search prioritizes profiles with
pictures. So, the more pictures in a profile the sooner a profile appears on
the search pages.
In Conclusion, online dating websites set a
trustworthy environment unavailable in other online social networking settings
like public chat rooms. The online dating network Arablounge sets up a series
of questions that need to be answered in order to proceed to create a profile.
However, the structure does not guarantee that people will answer accurately.
As a result, members use cues found through the structure of the content on
memberÕs profiles to develop conceptions of the identity of individuals.
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