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protus
i hate the fact that people my age have so much sex. it isn't just because i'm not getting any of it, it has more to do with the problems involved in it. when a teenager contracts aids, or gets/causes pregnancy, the world acts like they are fucking victims. i know that getting aids is a terrible thing, but that is a RISK that you accept when you have sex, along with all other STD's. and with pregnency, it is worse.. because there are so many ways to prevent it, and those who say that their religion prohibits the use of contraceptive devices don't realize that most religions that prohibit thier use, also prohibit premaritial sex.

Imploding~Thoughts
Your a smart dude. There is alot of things that need to be given attention to when you do have sex. And besides the risk of diseases, sometimes it can cause can emtional effect on a person if they are not ready, or are forced into something that they dont wanna do. um... where ever im getting at. But always be safe and stuff. Im waiting for the right person to come before i want to have sex with her. It would be more then a release of an urge, but something i do to please both of us. And i need that emotional bond between us the most, that would be better then sex anyways... i think. ohhhhhhh, what am i rambling bout now!

mamith
I once watched a friend of mine struggle with teen pregnancy (I posted this topic a day or two ago). You can't help but feel for them. I wrote a song about this (see my signature for a link). Everyone makes mistakes and many people make them in the "heat of the moment." I will agree with you protus - the act of sex is very irresponsible among the youth today. mamith

SoulAmnesia78
I think more teens are irresponsible about it because it's more socially acceptable today...as say, compared to the in the 50's. They probably think, well, everyone else is doing it so I'm just giving in to my normal urges. But they do need to be more responsible. Also, though, you shouldn't be judging them, either. Every situation might be different. I know for sure though that the whole condom thing is way overrated as protection...I personally know of 3 girls/women who got pregnant while using a condom.

ChasesTheSky
I think it has a lot to do with the loss of innocence in society today... Can anyone remember as much sex on TV and in the general media ten years ago... as there has been in the past five years alone? I watch stuff like Sex in the '90s on Mtv and programs and talk shows with topics such as "I'm 15 and pregnant..." and it kind of snaps me into reality about how far we've matured (note sarcasm) as far as sex is concerned in the past couple of years. It alienates those of us who believe sex to be something more than just an act of pleasure without consequences into thinking that we're the only ones who feel this way... and acts as a peer pressure to those who aren't strong enough to really think about what might happen if they participate in promiscuous sex. So yeah, I definately agree. To kind of conclude... I think that Darwin's survival of the fittest will prove itself in this issue... those smart enough to understand sex and protect themselves will not fall into what has become an unbelievable AIDS epidemic... I'm NOT saying everyone who has AIDS deserved it or that they didn't understand the consequences of their actions. A small percentage of people had circumstances that were not under their control. But if you are going to have sex, you should at least have you and your partner get tested... As for the pregnancies... those will breed themselves out of existance, depending upon the direction of abortion and where it goes... if the laws get more strict, then people will learn to be more careful, if not... well, then... I guess abortion, whether it is right or wrong, will be more readily available. All things will take care of themselves... in one way or another.

pumpkinprincess17
It all has to do with society (like almost all our other problems). Look at the clothes of today, the shows on TV, the content in many songs, many movies, and music videos. It's like sex is okay, no matter what your age is. I know many teenagers at my school who are very sexually active and it disgusts me. Sex is the most intimate thing you can share with another human being and I am not sharing that with anyone but the RIGHT one. I wish others could do the same.

Gryph983
STDs and pregnancy are by far not the most important issues surrounding sex. Sex does one of two things: 1) Connects people very deeply. 2) Nothing, because they are turned off. If a good person is connected to a person who is using them, that will hurt them deeply. If a person is nonreceptive to the deep bonding that can take place, then i say something else is wrong with them (please argue with me). The problems surrounding young sex (STDs, etc) would not HAPPEN if the causes for these actions could be fixed. People have sex to feel loved, but if they felt loved before then they would not need to jump into something that could not deal with. So, in summary, the bad effects of younger people having sex are NOT as bad as the things that make them want to in the first place. There is also a biological imperitive, but a truly enlightened and intellectual people have minds that govern their bodies. Maybe.

starla203
Those who have had sex can admit it is really really nice. But I can truly say that the best sex and the only time we should really have sex is with the ONE (not two or three or ten) we love. I have been with my boyfriend for almost three years. And I have never felt so at ease, in love, and connected with anyone before. Sex with him is awesome. I feel totally connected to him during "love making". I feel like one person with him. I give myself completely to him knowing that I don't want to give myself to anyone else for the rest of my life. And that is truly a great feeling...

DemilWisp To do or not to do, that is the question... I think that it depends on the individual on whether to have sex or not, with one your not in love with. America does have an obsession with sex, I think this is cheifly because it has been so demonized by the "moral majority" and yet glorified by the media. The funny thing is, and European board members, I hope you back me up with this, but as saturated as the American market is with sex, we are not nearly as open about it as other countries, I have Europe in mind, but even Brazil... Therefore sex and sexual imagery carries the mystique of taboo, a forbidden quality that makes it all the more scary, yet fascinating to the uninitiated. As unfair as it seems, it has been shown that females consider sex in a more emotional sense, where as males, generally speaking, are simply driven to procreate. That means of course, that you ladies are more than likely to be hurt worse, and more often than the guys. Should you wait for that special someone to lose your virginity with? Should you only have sex with a person whom you have sincere emotional ties with? Someone who reciprocates your feelings? I have had both worlds, with a loved ones, and with people I have had no emotional ties with whatsoever, and I can say, with out a doubt in my mind, that sex with someone you love isn't just sex, its love come to life. The glow you feel, it isn't fakeable, it's the best feeling. Sex for sex's sake is great too, but in a different way. It's just pure fun with no ties or obligations. If I had a choice, I would pick sex with someone I love, and who loves me back over the other, any day of the week. That being said, we are lucky if we have someone to love us, and sex is a part of being human. When we are young and inexperienced, maybe a bit naive, it's confusing and hurtful, but that is a part of growing up. I think that if any of the younger people on the board have alot of serious questions about sex, you should probably talk to one of your parents, you know, the one you confide in more than the other. And if that isn't an option, find a trusted adult, and let the questions fly. And then make your choice from there. Love.